Imposter Syndrome

😔 Feeling like no matter what you do, it is always not good enough?

Or…you always shrug off compliments 🤷 ?

Maybe you are experiencing ‘Imposter Syndrome’❗️

Imposter syndrome was coined in the 1970s by psychologists Suzanne Imes and Pauline Rose Clance. It is a condition when you believe that you are not as good as others 🤦 , despites all your achievements.

Let’s look at how imposter syndrome could play out.

🔴 You try to join clubs and do extra work as much as you can, so that you could satisfy your desire to do everything you possibly can.

🔴 No matter how hard you work, the outcome does not satisfy you.

🔴 You avoid joining social career events because you are too nervous to talk to someone who you think might be more experienced than you.

🔴 You do not take compliments because you think you can be better.

🔴 You will apply for jobs or clubs only if you have all the requirements listed. 

🔴 You worry and blame yourself even for small mistakes. 

🔴 You attribute your achievements to external factors or pure luck. 

So, how could we alleviate these feeling of self-doubt⁉️

Firstly, NEXKY must tell you that if you already notice that you feel like this, you are already on track to improve your self-esteem!

What more can we do?

🟢 Acknowledge your thoughts. Ask yourself, why are you feeling like this?

🟢 List out your achievements, including the small tasks!

🟢 Think about what you like about these achievements.

🟢 Be truthful to yourself. Think about your strengths and areas of improvement. 

🟢 Help someone else when you can. 

🟢 Set realistic goals. Start small! Try setting your goal as ‘offer one opinion during a meeting’.

🟢 Do not force yourself to do something way out of your comfort zone. Gradually build your courage up. 

🟢 Do not focus on one particular flaw you have. Everyone has something unique to do good. 

🟢 Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident.

💕 It is okay to not feel your best all the time. Be kind to yourself!

❗️However, we must learn that sometimes the term ‘imposter syndrome’ is not good to use. Especially, in workplaces, many women have identified themselves to have this syndrome and tend to blame themselves. However, in reality, structural, socio-political problems -sexism, racism, etc.- influence our work and how others see us as well. Sometimes, what needs change is the environment, not us.

So, do not go around and diagnose OTHERS with something YOU think they have! Also, do not feel bad about yourself. Everyone experiences ups and downs. 

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